@Azurolu@mangeurdenuage@phildobangnz@zemichi I don't think I've been there, but Montreal isn't lacking in good restaurants, including brunch restaurants. I'll keep that name in mind next time I'm looking for a new breakfast place!
>I had a handful of good kids, and coincidentally I’m sure, they were almost all African immigrants. One boy from Rwanda was accepted to STANFORD! Holy shit I was so proud of him and so happy for him. Know who wasn’t? The college counselor trying to pressure him to change his mind and go to fucking Grambling instead. Said he was turning his back on his community by going to Stanford. When my brother went to college he witnessed that. A guy "Robert" who came to france from RDC (Republic Democratic du Congo) for education HATED the blacks in france. This dude had a visceral hate against them and their gangsta/victimhood mentality/behavior. In the end he had his diploma made a bit of money and was able to move his family to central Africa where things are less shit. Good eng, I wonder how he doing now.
@Azurolu The comments highlight how this problem keeps perpetuating itself: so many people rushing to say it's not the kids faults, it's parents/culture/history/etc...
All blaming external factors do, is teach those kids not to take responsibility. It does not matter whose fault it is. All that matters is that those kids understand that their own actions, and their outcomes, are their responsability.
Any nuance to that can be taught later, once they have found their way out of this learned helplessness.
@Azurolu It's true that it is not the kids fault what their culture keeps telling them, but the only way up is for them to act like it is. Otherwise, the cycle just keeps repeating itself.
@Azurolu In a way, it's like cleanliness in a neighborhood. If there's a piece of trash on the ground I could pick up and clean, it's true that it's not MY FAULT that the neighborhood is dirty. I could just leave it there, it's not my responsability. But the only way for the neighborhood to be clean is to act like it is my responsability regardless to keep it clean.
@mangeurdenuage@Azurolu In my neighborhood cleanliness example, the piece of trash on the ground didn't spawn into existence out of nowhere. Someone actually threw it there, and it would be accurate to say that it's that person's fault that there's trash on the ground.
Whether it's important whose fault it is, though, is a different matter when it comes to deciding who should pick it up. Sure, in an ideal world, no one would throw trash on the ground, and in a slightly less ideal world, the person who threw it on the ground should be the person to pick it up. But I don't care about those fictional worlds, I care about a clean neighborhood, so it does not matter who threw it there, because it is within my power to clean it.
The way it's not their fault what the culture tells them, is that not everyone is aware of their own agency in life. Many people are never taught so, and there's a lot of messaging out there encouraging them to keep this external locus of control; lots of race-baiting going around. Those unaware will let themselves be influenced by it. The way out is to teach that awareness, teach kids to understand that their actions are the single most important factor for determining the quality of their enviornment, not the other way around. That they are in control of their own actions, not anyone else. Once that sentiment spreads through a population, there's quickly a lot less trash thrown on the ground.
@guizzy@Azurolu@mangeurdenuage@zemichi I've just had their duck confit. But yeah man u got yer own dedicated pipe network for syrup u can control the supply liek OPEC